Self-parenting is… heart work. Self- parenting exercises are to help me fulfill my emotional dependency needs that were not met during my childhood. Emotional dependency needs are the intimacy, nurturing, unconditional love and boundary protection that a person needs in order to feel safe, sane, and secure in the world.
Consciously fulfilling my emotional dependency needs will allow me to function in the world as an emotionally mature, highly functional adult. Self-parenting exercises take the concept of Self-nurturing from an abstract, hard-to-understand theoretical concept and breaks it down piece by piece into a step-by-step, easy-to-understand, specific set of emotionally Self-nurturing exercises.
Self-parenting exercises are a fast, safe way for me to surface and heal my repressed feelings. They can help me to rewire my internal programming with new, healthy, healing feelings. I can prove it to myself that the Self-parenting visualization exercises work by closing my eyes and imagining that I am chewing on a lemon. What I will notice is that I will start to salivate. WHY? Because my mind can’t tell the difference between a real and an imagined lemon. Therefore, when I do my Self-parenting exercises, my mind won’t be able to tell the difference between my real childhood experiences and Self-parented (imagined) visualizations.
Fulfilling my emotional dependency needs is a Self-parenting educational process designed to teach me how to: be emotionally intimate with myself and others, unconditionally love and accept myself and others, nurture myself and others, and maturely protect my boundaries so that I will feel safe and secure in the world. I’m often asked the question, “What’s the difference between Inner-Child work and Self-parenting work?” Inner-child work is to Self- parenting what arithmetic is to algebra.
Self-parenting takes inner-child work and integrates it with clinically proven, spiritually based exercises that break down Self-nurturing into a step-by-step, specific set of emotionally intimate Self-parenting exercises that will fulfill my emotional dependency needs that were not met when I was a child.
It is important to clearly understand what this term, Inner Child, means. It is my childlike memories and programs that are emotionally anchored to a time when I only had the power, knowledge, and physical strength of a small child. My inner child needs to learn to trust the “adult me” because I have adult powers now that he or she didn’t have. I need to make my inner child feel safe and secure by committing to practice these Self-parenting exercises until I do feel safe and secure in the world.
When I feel emotionally safe I will willingly reconnect with my repressed feelings, memories and emotions that are still frozen behind ego defenses that I needed when I was a child. When I was a child I needed my childlike defenses to feel safe, but they are no longer necessary because I am now an adult who is learning how to parent myself.
Self-parenting is an important process to Self-Mastery, and healing the Body, Mind, & Spirit. To learn more about this process, and to begin your journey home to yourself call to schedule a consultation.